To Dream the Impossible Dream with Sancho Panzo on the Team and Fighting the Unbeatable Foe

A boy gazes out his window, unable to sleep, wondering about his lost father. From the music video Silent Running.

My best friend requested this post. I admit to being both pleased to write this, and intimidated. Likely one of my greatest shortcomings has been that my dreams and hopes all too often just don’t fit with people’s ideas of reality. As a child I was both praised and scorned for having a vivid imagination. But imagination alone, while IMHO it is a gift and source of great joy, can’t accomplish much. You have to have certain skills to even begin to make a dream a reality. And since you don’t have all the skills you often need other people to accomplish very much in life. Somehow, I could paint a picture that people loved with my words, but I was never inspiring enough to get people to act. I failed to convince Dad to stop drinking (though he did do that a year after I ran away from home). I failed to convince my school board to keep the Jet-Nash school independent from consolidating with a school that I felt didn’t share our standards of excellence and valuing education over football. As I grew up, I have attempted fewer and fewer efforts to inspire people to improve the world. But suffice it to say, I’m batting a 1000 as a failure when it comes to true inspiration. Oh, I’ve learned some of the highlights of sales. I can convince a store manager that a profitable product will do well on their shelves. But to actually make the changes to make the world a better place? I’ve not learned that yet.

But then again, I suppose I never will learn the skill if I don’t keep trying.

The man who made the definitive speech about accomplishing dreams. Martin Luther King Jr. was arrested multiple times during his peaceful protests. I love this photo for some reason. Not because I relish him being arrested, I hate that. But the look in his eyes…likely I’m wrong, but I read more disappointment in that face than fear. I doubt I would ever be this brave.

Rather than just pontificate about the topic, I will share my research on the topic.,and%20Dreams%20of%20All%20Sizes%20Inspire%20Us%20,theories%20such%20as%20the%20theory%20of%20goal%20attainment.

Without a vision, the people perish. But some visions are nightmares.

The first few years after I left my ex-wife, I attempted to share a part of my new won freedom with my friends. I was soaking in self-help books, articles, and videos. I haven’t stopped even today, though I’ve steadied myself as far as buying more books and quit sharing so many videos. One of my best and wisest friends was talking with me, and likely I was being insufferable, because he asked me “What is the goal of goals”? It is a fair question. The short, Tired Blogger answer is that a rudderless ship will likely sink on rocks or run aground. But let’s see if these experts have something to add. shares four reasons why goals are important.

  1. Dreams bring zest and enthusiasm.
  2. A dream deferred makes the heart sick.
  3. Dreams lead to optimism.
  4. Dreams and goals inspire us.

Essentially, happy people strive for goals, unhappy people just allow life to destroy them. I am myself prone to depression, so don’t think I’m being as vapid as a lot of your PMA types. It doesn’t mean you are good or bad, but there is a correlation (if not a causation) between happiness and having goals in your life.

This man had the dream of stamping out crime in the US. Was he good or bad? Comments welcome.

Sheldon D. Newton, contributor to the Huffington Post, has this advice to give on plans and goals that I think is salient.

“Ensure that you know what you want out of life. What do you want to do? What do you want to attain? What do you desire to experience and enjoy in life? What is your God-given dream? What vision stirs within your spirit consistently, and you dream about all the time? Is it wholesome, descent, godly and possible? Then begin making plans to be that, do that, have that. And begin making those plans now. Refuse to procrastinate. Begin right away.”

He continues with “Ensure that your plans are not beyond your reach to begin to implement right away. In other words, make your plans doable. Set them in such a way that you can start putting your plan into action right away. There is a reason for this: When plans are made in such a manner that they over-whelm you, your energy gets drain just thinking about them. You will find yourself wanting to avoid beginning at all costs and with a whole lot of excuses. Making the plans workable from the get-go ensures that you stay pumped up and ready for action.

“Write your plans down. This is such an important point. Even the Sacred Scriptures admonished a prophet of God to, “Write the vision and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that reads it.” (Habakkuk 2:2, The Holy Bible) Writing your plans will help to ensure that you remain focus upon your goals. What you write, you can remember, because you can always go back and look it at. Focused people reach their goals, because they refuse to be distracted. They keep their plans before them, day and night.”

Statue of Habakkuk by Donatello, in the Museo dell’Opera del Duomo of Florence. “O LORD, how long shall I cry, and thou wilt not hear! even cry out unto thee of violence, and thou wilt not save! has this to say: “

Our brains are wired to love rewards, so we often set simple goals that make it easy to check off boxes. Did you go to the gym today? Check. Did you write in your journal? Check. “It feels really good to set a goal,” says McGonigal. “People often set them just for the burst of optimism they get when they vow to make a change.” But if that’s all our New Year’s resolutions are about, no wonder we end up abandoning them so quickly.A meaningful goal — one that truly inspires you to change — requires going deeper. “Give yourself permission and time to think about what it is you want to experience in your life or what’s getting in the way,” says McGonigal. Think about what you want in the coming year, then ask yourself why you want that — three times in a row. For example, if you want to quit smoking, ask why do you want to quit? Then, if you want to quit for your health, ask why do you want good health? Then, if your answer is to be alive long enough to meet your grandchildren, ask why do you want to meet your grandchildren? “You get to something that just feels so obviously important to you,” says McGonigal. It really drives home why that goal matters, and that motivation can bolster you as you work toward the goal.”

They also advise focusing on what you want to attain instead of what you want to avoid, to focus on the process whereby you attain the goal (planning, dividing the goal up into smaller tasks, etc), and to look for holes in your plan. It isn’t that you focus on how bad your plan is, but what might trip you up? What are the obstacles to avoid?

The most viewed Ted Talk of all time, Sir Ken Robinson says that schools are killing our creativity with 38 million views. I was lucky in my schooling, but I know that for all too many, it is true.

So then, what is the dream for this blog? My vision is to write inspiring, informative pieces that are impactful on my readers. My vision is to have people read my blogs and fall in love with me, with themselves, with their country. I envision having tens, maybe hundreds of thousands of followers (in time). I envision being able to make a living doing this, or at least substantially supplementing my income. I envision a community online of people changing the world, like the committees of correspondence changed the American Colonies into one of the world’s great Republics. I envision a community large enough, intelligent enough, and virtuous enough to either turn the fall of the West around, or if that is not possible, to rebuild a wiser and more benevolent Republic. I envision becoming a better person, someone who has mastered the ability to achieve goals but yet stay positive. A man who knows why he is here. Who spends his time, money, and energy wisely. I envision writing the books I dreamed of writing, building the businesses I dreamed of building. And yes, I dare to hope that in some way, I may yet have a family (though I’ll admit, I have no idea how that could happen).

Why the Tired Blogger is always getting hurt….

Plans and goals to achieve this? Right now, I intend to publish three written blog posts every week (so feel free and comment if I fail on that). Second, I intend to start or restart a YouTube channel to do book reviews, or to discuss anything my readers would enjoy me talking about. Last of all, I intend to build this into an actual, professional website. I intend to figure out how to make an actual menu so people can find this more easily. I intend at some point to monetize, though I’ll be honest, I have only vague idea of how to do that.

I know that likely, most of the things I envision may never come to fruition. It would be so simple, so easy to give up. Get fat. Hate women for not wanting me. Run off all my friends with a negative attitude. Stop writing, start reading b rate escapist fiction. To quote George Michael though…”Maybe…just one more try.” Or, to quote Cyrano when he is asked if he has read Don Quixote:

Cyrano de Bergerac: I have, and found myself the hero. Antoine Comte de Guiche: Be so good as to read once more the chapter of the windmills… Windmills, remember, if you fight with them… Cyrano de Bergerac: My enemies change, then, with every wind? Antoine Comte de Guiche: No, they may swing round their huge arms and cast you down into the mire! Cyrano: Or cast you up into the stars!”

Now…that is something I would love to see.
Let me know if you like my vision, or if you think I am too grandiose.




  1. Matthew Miller says:

    I actually managed to reach one of my goals. Took the expected next step and fell flat on my ass. It was a slow grinding death of a dream.

    Put enough passion energy and money into something like that, and it tends to sour any future goals you may have.

    Time will tell if my attitude changes, but right this second…

    Just not feelin’ it.

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    1. Curtiswselby says:

      Yeah, totally get it. I won’t insult your intelligence with a raw raw speech. “Once more into the breech” is all well and good for Henry V. Either you die or win a kingdom. What the success books don’t tell you is how painful it is to fail, and live, and earn nothing. The ancients would at least occasionally sing a song about the man who fought many valiantly but still lost. But in this modern soulless age, a failure is accounted, not as a valiant effort, but just as a foolish loser. Well…for what it’s worth, I don’t see you that way. I don’t know perfectly what that effort cost, but I have a vague idea. Let me tell you, if this world were just, I think you would be somewhere profoundly better. Whether Christ is real or not, my heart aches when I hear “The first shall be last, and the last will be first.” Then I turn to my life, and everything I fought for is ashes. Long melodramatic way to say, I respect the hell out of you. I’m just proud you comment.

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      1. Matthew Miller says:

        “ I don’t know perfectly what that effort cost…”

        Monetarily speaking just my life’s savings to that point. Pride and belief in those that pushed me in that direction took a hit as well. But the thing that truly did it in was watching it crumble no matter what I did.

        Some of it was my own failure, don’t get me wrong. I didn’t know what I didn’t know. But, even with what I know now, I wouldn’t do it again. At least not on my own dime.

        I appreciate the respect, and please know that it is returned.

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      2. Curtiswselby says:

        Thank you very much. Honestly, I don’t know how to proceed in the game (or the war, or whatever this is). But I totally understand giving it that 110 % the coaches tell us to give, only to watch assholes who are giving virtually nothing win the game. My (partly rhetorical) question is…how do we change the game? I know so MANY good people with high skills and intelligence, yet dumbasses run the show. Likely you and I won’t figure it out..but maybe the other 10 people…or a network of 100…someone HAS to have the game changing idea… but if not, we go down swinging

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  2. Quite lucidity written, well worded and insightful. For what it is worth, influencing people or helping people change is really just not possible, unless they are our children, students or they hold respect for us as individuals.

    As for the rest, for what it is worth I do understand the feeling.

    Early abuse *phys/sexual* by individuals tasked with my care, (not parents)
    Grade IV spondylolisthesis at age 10, 20+ surgeries (most major) later I’m at grade V, so my trailer trash butt couldn’t even use the standard escape, the military.
    Sometimes life can feel overwhelming, however, you have your health (mental if not physical), and you have the desire to move ahead. This means, you will succeed as long as you are willing to get back up again.

    Share your triumphs. Bask in the good portions, embrace the people who care, and own yourself. KNOW yourself, you are who you are. From what I can tell you are pretty damn cool!


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    1. Lmfao, typo hades – lucidly not lucidity

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      1. Curtiswselby says:

        Joke grenade in coming…”Why do we build the wall, my children, my children, why do we build the wall?” “We build the wall ‘cause spell checkers free, we meant to type stall…”

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    2. Curtiswselby says:

      Thank you! You are very kind! Hang in there! I can’t promise better days are coming, but I can promise the world is better for having you (and your blog) in it.

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      1. I am not sad or upset, honestly I do get weary at times with what humans have always done, ignore the lessons of the past.

        That said, I am more happy then not. Meeting wonderful people like yourself, just helps that!

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      2. Curtiswselby says:

        I understand tiredness to a profound extent. And my patientience with the human race is getting pretty thin. But I’m honestly about as happy as I have been in 35 years. Nobody abuses me. I eat regularly. I have a dog and hundreds of books. I just can’t quite bring myself to be content.

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